Transitions can be challenging for children, whether it’s moving from one activity to another, leaving the park, or preparing for bedtime. Here’s how you can support your child during transitions while honoring their feelings, needs, and preferences:
1. Anticipate and Plan for Transitions
Toddlers often feel more secure when they know what to expect. Use simple, consistent cues to help prepare them for transitions. For example:
Visual schedules: Create a picture-based daily routine that they can refer to.
Countdown warnings: Give gentle reminders like, “We have five more minutes to play before lunch!”
For some children, a timer can be helpful. For others, auditory, visual, or tactile cues like a song, visual countdown cues, or hand motions work better. Observe what resonates with your child.
2. Infuse Play into the Transition Process
Play isn’t just for fun - it’s how children learn and process their world! Incorporate playful elements into transitions to make them more engaging:
Sing a transition song: Sing a short, repetitive song like, “clean up, clean up, everybody, everywhere...” to the tune of a familiar melody.
Use imaginative play: Pretend to be an airplane flying to the kitchen for snack time or a train moving to the bathroom to brush teeth.
These playful approaches not only lighten the mood but also give your child a sense of agency and joy in the process.
3. Respect Emotional Responses
Transitions can evoke big feelings. Some children may resist or show frustration when asked to change activities. Instead of rushing or insisting, validate their feelings:
Acknowledge their emotions: “I see that you’re upset about leaving the park. You love the swings!”
Offer reassurance: “We can come back to the park tomorrow. Right now, let’s say goodbye to the swings.”
This empathy helps them feel heard and understood, building trust in your connection.
4. Use Sensory Strategies
Some children may struggle with transitions due to sensory sensitivities. Incorporating sensory tools can provide comfort and structure:
Offer a transition object, like a favorite toy, to hold during the change.
Use calming sensory input like a deep pressure hug, a fidget, or a soothing voice to ease the transition.
5. Empower Through Choices
Giving your child a sense of control can reduce resistance and build confidence:
Offer two simple choices: “Do you want to hop like a bunny or tiptoe to the table?”
Involve them in the process: “Can you help me pick up the toys before we read a book?”
When your toddler feels like an active participant, transitions can become less stressful.
Every child’s brain works differently, and that’s something to celebrate! Focus on meeting your child where they are, rather than trying to force them into a one-size-fits-all routine. By approaching transitions with empathy, flexibility, and play, you can create a supportive environment where your child feels safe and empowered to navigate change.
Feel free to reach out if you have any questions or need support. I'm here to help!
With Love,
Hannah Bogash, CCC-SLP
Founder, Sunny Skies Therapy
(818) 804-8131